and so things change...

Oh how things change in a matter of weeks…there are days of complete bliss and some that I’d rather not live through. However, no matter what comes at me and through my life, there is a lesson to be learned and an opportunity to be changed, to grow, to …etc.




The other day I started (and almost completed) a post about how selfish guys are and I even listed some scenarios explaining my very valid points. I griped and complained and shared my opinion on the male population…pretty bluntly might I add. But for some reason I didn’t publish it. Today, I’m pretty glad I didn’t.



For the better part of this weekend – and I’m sure I’ll change my mind again someday – I realized that not all guys are selfish, all about themselves, kind of people. I’m not sure why this particular person entered my life in a new way this weekend, but I’m completely grateful for him. This new friendship has definitely caused a new outlook for me, even after only a few conversations. I’m sure you’re thinking that that’s crazy – and honestly, I think so myself, but something keeps drawing me back to our conversations and to the words said.



For the first time in my entire life – yes, entire – a guy seemed (and I’m pretty sure it was genuine) to want to know as much about me as he shared about himself. I felt like it mattered what I said and it was evident he listened when he recalled topics from previous conversations. I don’t do vulnerability very well but for some reason I felt comfortable talking with him. Laughter (both at and with each other) was pretty prevalent and I never once felt like I was being made fun of or picked on. Please don’t misunderstand me and think that I want things to be all about me, all the time, but I can’t explain (and if you are a girl reading this then you understand) how refreshing it is to be listened to and to have someone engage in the other side of a conversation. There have been so many moments throughout my life when talking was one-sided or the only response consisted of “uh huh” and “yea” as if they were present physically but otherwise completely removed from the conversation. But this time – it’s been different…



I’m not sure why exactly our paths have crossed, but I can definitely tell you that it has opened my eyes and blessed my heart and I am very excited to watch the friendship unfold. Praise the Lord for great moments and new friends.